Posted by Bellisana 02/09/2018 0 Comment(s) Bellisana's Blog,

Well, after 5 years, my roommate and I have decided to get married!!!!  I’m excited. He’s a wonderful man, and I don’t know what I’d do without him.  My best friend since junior high school is not only standing up with me, she’s also making my dress. I am truly blessed.

Naturally, this has led me to do some refresher reading about the history of handfasting and the meanings behind it. Handfasting dates to the ancient Celts and involves the wrapping of the intended’s hands with a cord and tying a knot. Sounds simple enough, and overall, it is, but you can choose to use all four hands, right hands, left hands, or one of each, depending on what it means to you.

To be truthful, I hadn’t realized just how much goes into planning a wedding.  All I’ve had to do before is be a part of it. This time, I must plan it all. Music, besom, altar tables, and altar cloths, people to call the quarters, what we will have for the simple feast, which vows will we use, or will we write our own. Oh yes, and what kind of cloth or ribbon we want to use for the handfasting.  I’ve got to tell you, I’m more than a little overwhelmed at this point, but at least the space and the priestesses are in order.  And here I thought I was doing so well. 

Anyway, handfasting refers to an early Celtic marriage ritual that could be done as a trial marriage for a year and a day, or it could be permanent.  It symbolizes the couple’s commitment to each other.  Color meanings are below, so from these, we will choose two colors that represent what we mean to each other.

  • Red - love, strength, fertility, courage, vigor, passion
  • Orange - attraction, plenty, kindness.
  • Yellow - charm, confidence, balance, harmony
  • Green - fertility, luck, prosperity, love
  • Dark Blue -safe travels, longevity & strength
  • Light Blue - tranquility, understanding, patience, health
  • Purple - healing, health, strength, power, progress
  • Black - strength, empowerment, wisdom/vision, success, pure love
  • White - spiritual purity, truth, peace, serenity, and devotion
  • Gray - balance, neutrality, used in erasing, canceling, neutralizing,
  • Pink - love, unity, honor, truth, romance, happiness
  • Brown - healing skills & talent, home, earth.
  • Silver - for creativity, inspiration & protection.
  • Gold - for unity, longevity, prosperity.

At my age, I can eliminate anything that is for fertility, but we’re thinking dark blue or purple, and either silver or gold, but it remains to be seen.

I think we’re looking at this shirt for my fiancé, Harry, Men’s Renaissance Eyelet Shirt, in purple to match my dress.  We haven’t decided on a dress pattern yet, but when we do, I’ll post a picture.

My grandson and Great-great niece will perform flower carrier and ring bearer duties, and a canine member of the family will escort each of them. Purple dress for the flower carrier, and purple shirt for the ring bearer.

I’ll keep you posted on the details as we progress.  I never thought I would do this again, so I’m still wrapping my head around the concept as well as the details even though we’ll have lived together for 5 years at Christmas. I now have lists of lists to try to keep on track.


Note: We’ve postponed the wedding until NEXT Halloween in the interest of maintaining my sanity. However, I will keep you updated on the plans as we progress. 




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