Giving your "All"

Posted by Bellisana 20/11/2018 0 Comment(s) Bellisana's Blog,

I thought for sure I would be writing about death this week since I just lost another close friend, and in a way, I am, but I want to focus on the empaths and on why and how important it is to save enough energy for yourself. I know it’s easy to get so caught up in caring for others and seeing to their needs that you forget to replenish yourself, and you let your root chakra get out of balance. Sometimes this happens when you’re in a situation where your normal path to replenishment is blocked, or you just don't feel you have time.  I do understand all of that, but I’ve also seen what can happen when you give all your energy to other people.

Giving up all your energy leaves you with no way to fight back when, or if, the stress takes too big a toll on your physical health. Many of us are now at the age to care for aging parents, many of whom have memory and health issues. This is a stressful situation under the best of circumstances. It’s far too easy to drain yourself and not even realize it. It’s so subtle that you don’t notice it’s happening until you have nothing left. I can’t emphasize enough the importance of regular doctor visits and check-ups. However, there are other things we can do to balance our root chakras and regenerate our energy.

The Root Chakra:

Root Chakra is based on earth energy and represents our foundation and safety. It’s often considered the seat of the unconscious. Also known as Muladhara, the Root Chakra grounds us, and only when the Muladhara is balanced can the other chakras be balanced as well. When this chakra is out of balance, we’re stressed, we have a negative, cynical outlook on life. We’re prone to eating disorders, insecurity.

Issues with impulse control whether with food, alcohol, or other substances.

The root chakra is at the base of the spine in the tailbone area. To help balance chakras on an intellectual, emotional, physical, or even spiritual level, we need to bring the chakra in tune with the universal energy, also called prana, or kundalini.  We can do this using color, candles, stones, herbs, and yoga. Choose the ones that resonates for you. 

Some starter yoga Poses for balancing your Root Chakra:

  • Mountain
  • Warrior
  • Warrior II
  • Upward/Downward Dog
  • Malasana
  • Apanasana

The primary color that coincides with the root chakra is red.  For example, red candles represent health, courage, energy, life, passion, fertility, physical strength.  They are invigorating and increase magnetism which aids grounding and allows them to be used in defensive magic.  Rose quartz, garnets, and rubies will also help you bring your root chakra into balance.  Ruby is associated with Mars and the Sun, love, and healing, and, of course, the root chakra. 

To a somewhat lesser degree, black is also associated with the root chakra, and there are several black stones such as hematite, obsidian, and tourmaline that are associated with grounding and security that can also help you bring your chakra back into balance, and, of course, black candles are also associated with protection, destroying evil or negativity, binding, and repelling and healing.


Keep stones of protection, regeneration, healing, grounding, and calming around you wherever you are. Always wear your stones to keep them with you. The stones listed here are a mixture of chakra stones and general healing stones.

Always keep your protection and regeneration materials close by.


  • Protection: Hematite, Lapis, Obsidian, Labradorite, Pyrite, Black Tourmaline,
  • Regeneration & healing: Carnelian, Malachite, Diamond, Amber, Garnet, Peridot, Ruby
  • Grounding and calming: Smoky Quartz, Agate, Iolite, Topaz, Fluorite, Rhodochrosite, Rose Quartz, Amazonite

Herbs & Oils:

  • Protection: Star Anise, Rose, Myrrh, Acacia, Acorn, Clove, Bay Leaves, Sage, Angelica
  • Cleansing & healing: Blackberry, Bracken, Cedar, Cowslip, Hemp, Henna, Hops, Cedar, Sweetgrass, Copal, Frankincense, Burdock, Cloves/clover, Dandelion, Rosemary, horseradish, hot paprika, chives, cayenne, pepper.
  • Grounding and calming: Sage, Sandalwood, Lavender, Rosebuds,

Many of the herbs listed here can be used in teas, and you can use all of them in rituals, but always check carefully for allergies and, of course, avoid toxins when drinking anything.

I can’t emphasize enough how important this is for caregivers in particular. One of the best men I’ve ever known just gave his all as a caregiver for his aging parents. He survived them by mere months. 


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